A man has made headlines after telling the world that he would never offer his seat to an able-bodied woman on public transport as they wouldn’t do the same for him.
It’s a minefield, knowing who to offer your seat too when you’re on the tube. I find it genuinely stressful.
I’ll be tired, sitting on the tube but we get to Tower Hill and all sorts of people join us; old people, pregnant people, people who look to have a slight limp and I’m instantly at a loss.
Are those people old enough to be thankful and not offended? Is that woman actually pregnant or just a bit [you know]? Has that person got a genuine limp or are they drunk?
Burning questions that really set me on edge so ultimately I just tend not to sit on public transport unless I know it’s going to be a quiet journey. I don’t want to end up on BuzzFeed as the “man-child who won’t offer his seat to pregnant and disabled WWII vet“.
With all of that in mind, 45-year-old Nirpal Dhaliwal took to Good Morning Britain to share his views on giving up one’s seat, and while he will offer his to the elderly, disabled and pregnant, he won’t extend that gesture to all women in general…
“Firstly, if a woman is able-bodied, why should I? Guys pay for the train ticket as much as women do, they have a long day at work, they’re knackered and if she’s physically able why should I give up my seat for her?
If she’s pregnant, she’s got a health problem or physical problem – yeah.
There was a Twitter storm yesterday where a woman tweeted about some guy trying to help her with her luggage, getting it out of the compartment in the plane.“
“She regarded him as an oppressor. Guys are getting their head bitten off, or certainly getting an earful just for helping. That’s confusing for guys.
It’s a one way street though. A woman’s never given up her seat for me, that’s even when I’ve had a football injury and I’ve been limping down the carriage.
I’ve never had a woman open a door for me, pull out a chair for me – nothing.”
In response, feminist Noreen Khan said:
“I would never be offended if a man was chivalrous. For example if he decides to hold the door open or says ‘would you like help with your luggage?’ I would say ‘yes please’.
Even if I haven’t asked for it I still wouldn’t be offended. Us women, we would do the same as well for men. If he wants to hold the door open, I’ll happily hold the door open too.
Whenever I go on a tube or train, I never expect a guy to give up a chair for me – why should he? Unless a woman’s pregnant I think or like you said with health issues, I would never expect that.
It’s those small gestures like if you go on a date and the guy holds…“
To be honest, it sounds like GMB got two people on to debate who ultimately agree with each other…
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