TikTok is often an educational experience, with people sharing hacks, tips and tricks.

A recent video has got everyone talking, after a mum shared a post saying she has taught her five daughters that virginity doesn’t exist.

The mum, Cayce LaCorte posts as @book_mama. She says raising her daughters to believe there is no such thing as virginity. She explains it is a “patriarchal concept and serves no purpose”.

In 2021, many people are talking about concepts about sex, gender, and relationships. Virginity is a completely made-up idea, along with the concept of “popping their cherry” when they have sex for the first time. There are plenty of myths around sex and sexuality, and Cayce was keen to avoid that for her family.

Cayce’s post was responding to a question by another TikTok user, @nevadashareef. She asked parents to name something about the way they have raised their children, that other people find weird but they disagree.


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Speaking about virginity, Cayce said: “It is a patriarchal concept used to control women and serves no purpose – other than making women feel bad about ourselves.

“Just because some guy randomly sticks his penis in you at some point in your life does not change your worth, it does not change who you are, it doesn’t do anything other than it happened.”

“Sex is important. It’s a big deal. It should always be a big deal. It has nothing to do with your first time…it’s just ridiculous. The whole concept is ridiculous.”

“And I get a lot of c**p from other mums saying ‘oh don’t you think it will make your daughters promiscuous’ I was like no, I’m raising them to be good people and have solid foundations and make their own choices and make smart, intelligent choices, not because some book says not to.”

Following her video going viral, plenty of other parents and professionals have been praising Cayce’s message.


One said: “Omg! As a therapist there is so much praise I want to drop here for you!”

Another added: “We need to normalise this! You just shifted my perspective in 15 secs, it makes so much sense. Thank you so much.”

 A third wrote: “I have two girls and this is a great idea. Plus, why is promiscuity generally viewed as a bad thing?”

Plenty of people have asked Cayce to share further wisdom about how she raises her kids. One other user commented: “And the award for best mum goes to you!”

One mum said: “Love this, I’ve always taught my daughters that it is more important to protect their credit score than their virginity.”

It’s had nearly 500k likes so far.

Do you agree with what Cayce says?

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