It can be a stressful and emotional endeavour, even when things are civil, but for many co-parents’ breakups are rough.
The co-parenting relationship can involve substantial amounts of friction, arguments, disagreements and general opposition when it comes to all thing’s child related.
Sometimes opposition to certain child issues can be warranted and it can be healthy to discuss things like adults, but there comes a point when a line must be drawn – particularly when actions or words are taken ‘out of spite’.
An alarming video has emerged online showing the moment a mum from Alabama cuts her daughter’s braids off whilst venting her anger at the child’s father after he took her to have her braids done by someone else other than her.
The mother has received a barrage of online criticism and disgust after a man who appears to be the child’s father shares the footage on his Facebook.
The father wrote in the caption:
“I snuck up on my kids at daycare cause dey momma Jayla don’t let me see dem an I took my boys to get dey hair cut an got my bby girl har did look wat her momma do just cause I got my bby hair did”.
“I’m Gucci but my bby hurt but females talk about dead beats dis why sum [N-words] say f*** dat s*** an I remind u she also smushed her bday cake on her bday last year”.
When we look at effective measures of approaching co-parenting with a ‘difficult ex’ most of us know it should be the child that’s put first.
But for some co-parents it seems they will act out defiantly against one another by inappropriately using the children as a vessel by implementing emotion-inducing tactics that can only be described as lower than low.
For many social media users who have viewed this video, the mother’s behaviour was considered “sad” and “evil”.
Others who found themselves in similarly difficult co-parenting relationships were quick to insist that although they “despise” their “baby daddy” they would never hurt or upset their kids to “spite him”.
“I always say love your kids more than you hate you”, says another commenter.
The mother has since defended her actions on Facebook saying the “braids were too tight”.
“It was too tight. My baby hair, her skin meat was puffing up between the braids and everything. It was pretty, but it was too tight, and I don’t even braid her hair that tight”.
In a further Facebook post she went on to ridicule the father saying:
“I don’t need no hoe putting they hands in my daughter hair when I’m a braider myself & just now getting my guh hair to grow!!! This f*** [N-word] know I even said the Africans can’t get in her head cause they braid too mutha f**** tight & guh hair was tight as f*** damn right I cut it out”.
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