Parenting is obviously a hard gig, and until you’ve actually done it it’s impossible to criticise others about how they bring up their kids.

Of course, when it comes to raising children, everyone is going to have their own opinions, and one woman who isn’t afraid to voice hers is mommy blogger Caitlin Fladager, who recently ruffled feathers by saying she dresses her children in clothes from supermarkets like Wal-Mart, while she opts for more expensive outfits.

Normally this wouldn’t be such a big issue, but Caitlin has 330,000 followers on Instagram, so naturally plenty of people had their say.

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I have no makeup on and I just came back from a seven hour day at the beach, but this dress came in and I had to try it on. ✨ #momselfie

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She said: “‘Your kids only wear clothes from Walmart, while you get dressed up a lot. Not a good look for you as a mom..’

“That statement is something I get a lot. Yes, my kids’ clothes mostly come from Walmart, while I buy myself clothes from other stores.

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“You know why? Because I am not constantly outgrowing them, like my kids are. I am not constantly spilling food and dirt all over my brand new clothes. I am not outside running around in the dirt for hours on end. I am not tripping and ripping holes in brand new clothes.

“I am not changing my mind daily about what colour I have randomly decided I don’t want to wear ever again.”

“I am not a kid. My children are messy, they love to play in the dirt, and they love to spill their food. I buy them cheaper clothes, because I refuse to be the mom who yells at them for spilling a drop of ice cream on a brand new shirt.

“I strive to be the mom who sees them spill, and says ‘oh no big deal!’ I strive to be the mom who sees them playing in the dirt, not caring that they are ruining a brand new outfit. I strive to be the mom who teaches them there is more to life than having nice, expensive clothes.

“So yes, my kids mainly live in Walmart clothes. And they love it. They love being able to spill, get dirty, and outgrow clothes in a day with me not caring. So here’s my kids, in an outfit I bought not long before this day.

“Here’s them covered in dirt, spilling ice cream, and living their best life. That’s all I could ever want. I will not feel bad for buying my clothes for them from Walmart. Because when I look at this picture, it reminds me why I do that.

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“The dirt, the smiles, and the ice cream makes me way more happier [sic] than a photo of them dressed in clothes they hate, that they will outgrow in a week.

“This right here, makes me so much happier.”

It comes after she previously defended her decision to smoke marijuana in front of her young children, slamming those who criticised her for taking the drug, claiming that it helps keep her calm and that she never gets so high that she’s “unable to function”.

She explained: “When I smoke while my kids are up, which is rare, but it has happened, it is to calm myself. Not to get high, or to lay on the couch all day.

“Marijuana has so many other benefits besides the ones you see in the movies. ⁣⁣

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Yes, I have two kids. Yes, I smoke weed daily. ⁣ ⁣ It’s so funny to my how frowned upon marijuana is. No one looks twice when a mom says she enjoys “mom juice” aka wine, after her kids are in bed. But when a mom says she smokes weed, it’s a huge shock. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I talk about this to bring awareness. I feel as not enough people talk about this. Marijuana has helped me so much, especially when it comes to being a mom. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I have never been the most patient with my two kids. Weed makes me a better mom, as I get a good night sleep after I smoke. I wake up well rested, and with a more clear mind. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It’s okay to smoke weed after your kids go to bed. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It’s okay to smoke it to help with anxiety. Mine has been SO much better since I started smoking. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It’s okay to smoke it to gain weight. I’ve always been dangerously underweight. Now, I am at the healthiest weight I have ever been in my life. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It’s okay to smoke it, to help you get off medication. I was able to completely stop my anti depressants because smoking helped me so much. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It’s okay to smoke instead of drink. I used to have a problem with drinking, and my behaviour that came along with that. Weed has helped me to stop drinking so much, and to be honest, I much prefer smoking over drinking. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Marijuana is my glass of wine. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It’s my can of beer. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It’s my relaxation time. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ You can still be a kick ass mom, and smoke weed.

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“Smoking while your kids are awake doesn’t make you a bad parent.⁣⁣ Some people don’t smoke just to get high. ⁣⁣You don’t have to smoke a ton every time. ⁣⁣

“It doesn’t make you lay on the couch all day, and ignore your kids.”

I mean, who am I to tell her she’s right/wrong. As long as she looks after her kids and they are happy healthy – which they genuinely seem going off her social media posts – then all power to her.

Live and let live.

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