In all honesty, outside my own friends and family, I don’t really care about what anyone else gets up to.
Maybe that’s a bad way to live, I don’t know, but as long as people aren’t breaking the law or hurting someone else, it’s my belief that they should be able to do whatever the hell they want. Identity politics and all that jazz seems to dominate social discourse at the moment, and I’ve no idea why people suddenly care so much.
If someone wants to use a different pronoun and be referred to as they/them, that’s fine with me. It really makes no difference to my life at all.
Sadly, not everyone shares the same sentiment, which is why it’s important for those in the spotlight to give the issue more attention.
Which is why it’s such a bold move from Sam Smith, who has reportedly requested friends and family refer to the singer as ‘they’ instead of ‘he’, six months after coming out as non-binary.
Smith has spoken previously of ‘the war’ experienced in finding their identity, and thanked Hits Radio presenter James Barr on Twitter when he referring to the star as ‘they’.
Barr tweeted: ‘just interviewed @samsmith and they sounded so happy and free and more themselves than ever. it’s made me feel like the world is a good place again @hitsradiouk’.
Smith replied: ‘You’re one of the first people to use these pronouns with me. Thank you. That feels really beautiful’.
A source told The Sun:
“This is a decision Sam has thought long and hard about, including doing a lot of reading on up it.
He knows that it will take some people longer than others to fully get it.
First the request is going out to mates and then it will be passed on to the music industry too. It’s an exciting and groundbreaking time for him.”
Furthermore, the Daily Mail reported that a source close to Smith said it has been ‘a decision Sam has thought long and hard about, including doing a lot of reading on up it.’
‘[They know] that it will take some people longer than others to fully get it. First the request is going out to mates and then it will be passed on to the music industry too. It’s an exciting and groundbreaking time for [them].’
Smith came out as non-binary in March, which means they don’t define themselves as masculine or feminine while preferring they/them pronouns.
In an interview with GQ in May, Smith detailed how their early experiences in the gay community were ‘quite violent and scary at times’.
“I didn’t really realise how awful they were until I started therapy and started to uproot some of that stuff. It was a lot. Those first experiences, they weren’t very kind.”
“Ever since I was a little boy, ever since I was a little human, I didn’t feel comfortable being a man really. I never really did”, Smith went on to say.
“Some days I’ve got my manly side and some days I’ve got my womanly side, but it’s when I’m in the middle of that switch that I get really, really depressed and sad. Because I don’t know who I am or where I am or what I’m doing, and I feel very misunderstood by myself. I realised that’s because I don’t fit into either.
I was with my mum last night and she said something so beautiful: ‘I’m so relieved that you and me and your whole family have a way to explain this, because it’s also been eating me up your whole life.’
Because my mum could see it and that it was a torture going on in my mind.”
Inevitably there’ll be plenty of people offering their two cents’ worth, good and bad.
I’m of the opinion that if it makes Smith happy and as though they can finally be themselves, that’s undoubtedly a good thing.
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