“Throuple” Say People Are Jealous Of Their Three-Way Relationship

Alfie PowellAlfie Powell
Published 04.12.19
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There’s a married couple out there who share a girlfriend – there’s probably more than one – and they say that we’re all envious of their relationship, that’s also a “delicate balance”.

Michael and Lauren Taylor, both 30, are a civil engineer and yoga instructor (shock) respectively, and are married.

The two met and started dating in 2011 during college, getting married five years later.

Seven years after they just enjoyed each other’s company though, they met 30-year-old health coach (shock) Jessica Woodstock at a gig, who got chatting to the couple. They’ve been together ever since.

They say that they’re three people who love each other equally, but also love each other in their couples, which doesn’t make much sense but hey, I’m ignorant.

Clearing things up, Michael explained:

Jess has been polyamorous most of her adult life. Lauren and I were monogamous for seven years but were in search for an enhancement to the relationship. We each had more love to give than just to each other.

There are several points in the relationship that led to ‘falling in love’. You experience all the amazing things with each other, and then one day it just hits you. It’s not so much the events, as it is the consistency and intensity.

Our delta is a 33 percent shared love between the three of us. We all have equal responsibilities to care for ourselves and each other. Although our triad is predominantly the three of us, there are three additional relationships that need recognition: Michael and Lauren, Michael and Jess, Lauren and Jess.

Three equal parts with equal responsibilities. We have a running joke for when we leave the house – if one of us forgets something, it’s almost guaranteed that one of the others will remember to grab it.

Each of us shines separately as individuals and come together for the same purpose. We push each other to better ourselves and to pursue our passion. We celebrate every win in our house.”

It wasn’t all easy though, as families had to be made aware of their new situation. Michael continued:

Jess’s family had known and supported her lifestyle for quite some time prior to us.

We were extremely careful and patient in explaining it to Lauren’s family because of the adversity – coming out as bisexual and welcoming another woman into the marriage.

The throuple plan to get married when that’s made legal, and also hope to make their family bigger, having children or adopting.

Lauren explained that the three have a number of ways to stop anxiety, insecurity and the like, saying:

The best way to take care of others is to take care of yourself. Start with this. Yoga, meditation, and your own health create space for loving yourself first.

Knowing your worth will allow you to be free of insecurity, doubt, and jealousy. Then, empower each other through the good and the bad. When new problems arise, face them head on right away.

Talk through the challenges, big or small, and find a resolution together. Being on the same page is crucial – especially when making big commitments. It’s important to communicate each individual’s wants and needs, all day, every day, so that no emotions are suppressed.

We live by inspiring, rather than influencing others. We serve to spread love everywhere we go. Any relationship, monogamous or otherwise has its challenges. Being human, we are bound to feel insecurity, anger, sadness, etc. at some point.

Although these emotions stem from both internal and external factors, we work together to consciously remove them from our space. If you constantly show happiness and light, you’re more likely to attract those with aligned paths. If it means adding another person to the mix, embrace that.

Jessica added, speaking of the societal reaction:

We usually have to repeat ourselves a few times to ‘spell it out’ for them, if you will.

People are generally confused but intrigued to know more about the relationship. Most reactions are quite comical, and the questions start to pour in. Men, especially, are excited and envious.

Here are a few initial questions we receive from those who have never encountered something like this in person: ‘Who sleeps in the middle?’, ‘Who controls the thermostat?’, ‘How did you all meet?’, ‘Who wears the pants?’, ‘Do you plan on getting married or having kids?’, and ‘Do you go on separate date nights?’

The key to this is to always be yourself, don’t hold back your wants and needs, and prevent resentment. It’s also important to create foundational relationships like the three separate ones we share.

A triad is a delicate balance.”

God they say a lot, don’t they?

Look, it’s just a hunch and I could be wildly wrong here, but I suspect ol’ Mikey there gets the least play in bed out of the three of them, yet is the one to talk most about his sex life in his friends group.

Live and let live, eh?

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