Don’t get me wrong, I love celebrating anything to do with friends and family, but the idea of an organised day of fun in my honour is honestly my worst nightmare.
I love nothing more than going under the radar in life and keeping myself to myself, so being the focal point of a celebration goes against pretty much every fibre of my being.
I’m so weird about this that I will always book my birthday off work – so as to avoid attention (we do cake/song thing here and the thought alone terrifies me) – and I even delete Facebook a few days before the date so it doesn’t pop up on anyone’s feed.
Just leave me the hell alone, people, and everything will be fine.
Given what I’ve just said, the idea of throwing myself a divorce party is something I’m struggling to relate to, on account of hating parties and not being married.
But reading about Catherine Navarro, 34, from New Jersey, I can understand why.
As reported by The Sun Catherine was just 20 when she married her first love and now ex-husband Marc in 2005 after a somewhat whirlwind romance.
After organising the ‘last minute’ nuptials, they got married at City Hall in New York City, but after Catherine realised he had been keeping secrets from her, she attempted to file for divorce in 2012.
However, Marc responded by vanishing from her life completely.
The court could only grant her a divorce in his absence if she could prove she had searched high and low for her husband, leaving her in the wilderness for several years.
It took Catherine years to prove her grounds for divorce, but finally granted she was granted it in March 2019, and so decided to throw a ‘divorce party’ with the help of mates.
Catherine told the Mail Online:
“I realized not long into the marriage that I didn’t know him at all and there were too many secrets. The first divorce proceeding started approximately seven years ago, and lawyers were involved, but he refused to agree to the terms.
So, it goes in blind love, I eventually gave up on the idea and instead vowed to continue working on our marriage. Ultimately, we separated and during that time, which spanned nearly a decade, I tried to file for divorce multiple times, but he refused to sign the papers.
When things fell apart again, the road to the final divorce was quite the journey. Marc vanished off the face of the planet and I didn’t hear from him or have any idea where he was.
When this sort of thing happens, when you can’t find your husband anywhere, and desperately want to cut legal ties, there’s an option to file for divorce in their absence – but you have to prove you’ve looked everywhere.”
To celebrate the news of her divorce, Catherine invited around 30 people to a party.
About 30 friends attended the party, that included cakes, decorated with “straight outta marriage” and “boy, bye”, as well as with balloons with “happily divorced’ written across them.
Catherine told the Mail Online:
“It had been years in the making, but the day I finally got divorced, my closest friends, who’d seen me through this whole journey, and I decided it was time to manifest the occasion with an incredible party that would celebrate my new beginning.
I was so excited to finally have my maiden name back and be rid of him. It made me so happy. As soon as it was finalized I felt like I was 20 again and had a new chance at love.
“I’d definitely recommend a divorce party to anyone else if it’s a happy occasion which brings joy, rather than drudging up old memories.
Everything happens for a reason, and for me in the end it all happened for the best. Don’t dwell on the past and instead accept the lessons that every experience provides.
Life is too short to be in a relationship which doesn’t make you happy – lawfully or not.”
Clearly this was a pretty significant moment for Catherine, and I imagine she’ll feel like a huge weight’s been lifted off her shoulders.
Although I’m not entirely sure I like the concept of a ‘divorce party’ under normal circumstances.
It’s like these ridiculous gender reveal parties parents have started throwing for their unborn kids, people will throw a party for anything these days.
Images via Catherine Navarro/Mdwfeatures